Sarah Moss: "Having it all" is something of which only mothers are guilty. If a father has a job, even with good money and high status, he is not "having it all". He is likely to be praised for both the paid work and whatever care he finds time to give to his children. You can’t have it all, people used to say to me as I worked for promotion, as if it was greedy to aim for a fulfilling career alongside motherhood; as if women – only women – were living in a zero-sum game where ambition came at the cost of motherly love.
